This is a bit of an addendum to the sexuality opinion I wrote recently. It was meant to be a post scriptum for the blog post below, but it grew long enough to warrant its own entry.
I remembered a certain teacher from my high school (liceum) who I won't have classes with anymore (a shame, really - hot and interesting to talk with).
She's a particular type of woman. Highly sexual, doesn't avoid the topic or indeed enjoys it maybe a little too much, irritating the less sexual students in my class.
She's not dumb - she has troubles with talking correctly, but otherwise likes to at least think she's intelligent. I haven't been able to judge fully objectively how true is she...
But I definitely noticed one thing.
She enjoys the topic of human sexuality. She enjoys talking with students about it, steadfastly and frequently reminding them that there is absolutely nothing wrong with being aware of your sexuality in any way, from masturbation to any consensual sex.
There was basically no way of avoiding this disclaimer in EVERY sex-related conversation she ever took part in.See what this is?
This is the result of these feelings, this part of our life being so strongly repressed.
This is something not everyone accepts yet. Some people still look down on masturbation, as if it was something beneath their distinguished selves. (Once again... Pushed through a vagina at birth. Your parents had sex in order for that to happen.) Some people still think such topics are distasteful and should be left alone in the quiet corner.
If we were not repressed at all, if our culture was free from these shackles, this wouldn't even come up!
Mrs Teacher wouldn't feel so obliged to shove this disclaimer into every discussion.
We wouldn't point this out to ourselves so much.
We wouldn't point this out to ourselves so much.
I wouldn't even have to write either of these posts.
We would have been over and done with all this and sex would be a perfectly normal part of our lives, an intense and enjoyable experience between two persons with the chemistry and/or spirit of love bringing them together... or a simple act of mutual pleasure. We wouldn't have sciencists going "Whoa, this masturbation thing is actually incredibly healthy!".
There would be no disclaimer anywhere.
Katie again.
ReplyDeleteIt works in the other way too. The disclaimer sometimes highlights the problem. By pointing out that something is okay in such an authoritative way is like telling a child its wrong to eat sugary sweeties. It just makes the sugar more inviting. So telling us sex is fine will make us start thinking in the opposite direction, and in your teacher's case, it would possibly become "Lol, you agree with a TEACHER."
I don't think there's any way to eradicate the problem. It's basically engrained in the fabric of society to the point now where, even if we get the most of it out in the open and burn it, there will still be the odd thread that missed our view (mostly churches, mosques, old-fashioned people with big gobs and other such things).
Now that you mention it, I can see vague suggestions of that trend in my class. It's nothing out there, never spoken, but the more thoughtful teachers don't seem to be liked very much, including the one I talked about here.
ReplyDeleteSexuality is being frequently brought into the open, there are a lot of people arguing against the antiquated, prudent views on the issue and the problem is being pushed back - but not only the threads you've mentioned there - churches, mosques etc - will remain.
Like we agreed, it's ingrained into our very language, our methods of thinking, our behaviour. These things are nigh-impossible to change, nevermind the churches.